Why?
September 17th, 2008 Posted in encouragement, family, Pastor's corner, questionsWhen tragedy hits us, we often ask the question, “Why?” How can we avoid it? Through the book of Job, Job asks the question “Why?” many times.
There isn’t anything necessarily wrong with asking God, “Why?,” as long as we don’t get the idea that God somehow owes us an answer. Frankly, God does not owe you or me an explanation.
Yet we may still wonder, “Why?”
But let me ask you this, if the Lord did tell you why things happen the way they do, would that ease your pain or heal your broken heart? I don’t think so. In fact, it would raise even more questions.
God says, “My ways are above your ways, and my thoughts above yours . . . ” We live on promises, not explanations, so we shouldn’t spend too much time asking God why.
I too have asked, “Why?” Why did God take my son, and not me? He was only 33 years old, with so much promise. He was a loving husband and father. He was a much-loved son and brother and friend to many. He was walking with God and serving Him.
Why? I don’t know. That is my answer.
Chuck Smith told me recently that we should never trade what you don’t know for what you do know.
So what do I know?
- I know God loves me.
- I know God loves my son, my wife, my daughter-in-law, my granddaughter, and my other son.
- I know God can make good things come out of bad.
So I will stand on what I know, instead of what I don’t know.
In his commentary on the book of Job, Chuck Swindoll wrote:
“God never promised He would inform us all about His plan ahead of time; He’s just promised He has one. Ultimately, it’s for our good and His glory. He knows–we don’t. That’s why we shrug and admit, ‘I don’t know.’
But I do know this: The death of His Son was not in vain; Christ died for you; and if you believe in Him, He will forgive your sins, and you will go to live with Him forever. You’ll have heaven and all the blessings of it, I do know that.”
It’s a tough journey, getting there. Full of confusion, struggle, and shrugs, followed by a lot of “I don’t knows.” But when the heavens open and we’re there, hey, there will be no more shrugs, and you’ll be able to say, “Now I know!”
Secret things
We could ask the question, “Why?” about many people in the Bible. Why take Stephen at such a young age as a martyr? Later, we read of James being beheaded while Peter is spared.
Why? I don’t know. It was God’s plan. His mysterious, at times frustrating, unknowable plan.
The Bible says, “The secret things belong to the Lord” (Deuteronomy 29:29 NKJV).
Poor old Job did not know how his life would turn out. All he knew was that one day things were delightful and the next day they were dreadful.
He lost his home, his health, and, worst of all, his children. He had not read the last chapter of his book, so he did not know God would bless him later.
Oh sure, his health would return, his possessions would multiply, but the children he lost were not replaced, so still there was great pain.
Sometimes, when a child has died, people will ask if you have any other children and say, “Well, at least you still have your other kids.” But every child is precious and irreplaceable and dear, whether you have two children or 20.
An eternal perspective
In John 11, after the unexpected death of her brother, Martha said to Jesus, “Lord, if You had been here, my brother would not have died!” (John 11:21 NKJV)
Martha was saying to Jesus, ”Unfair, foul, not right!” But she still cried out to Jesus.
That is what we must do as well. Go to Jesus with your frustrations, anguish, and questions. Call out to Him. Just make sure you listen to His response!
Jesus did not correct Martha for making this statement. Rather, He sought to get Martha back to an eternal perspective here.
Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in Me, though he may die, he shall live. And whoever lives and believes in Me shall never die. Do you believe this?” (John 11:25-26 NKJV)
Death is not the end. Jesus has overcome it.

Hello pastor greg, I wanted to share with you how your messages on line in 2008 after after losing your son brought me healing, it’s been 1yr now. on Aug31 2010 my son Sgt Raymond ALcaraz was killed in afganistan he was a combat medic 20yrs old no children not even married, that day my world was changed and I remember wanting to search for your messages and hear from a powerful man of God going through the same lost, feelings and, emotions . Through you GOd gave me strength, you gave me strength to persevere, be encouraged to know that to be absent in the body is to be present with the lord, to continue to walk in FAith. Mssing someone you love is a tribute to that person and to his influence in your life, moving forward, making the neccessary adjustments. And finding new purpose for yourself ia a tribute to God and to his influence in your life. Thank you for All your reading material that has helped me grow, as I continue to put new believers bibles in everyones hands. Blessing from Alma Murphy
Thank you so much for this – you have no idea how much I needed to read this today! God’s ways are not my ways, I know. I am going through a major life/career change right now and I often find myself asking “WHY???” alot. I know God has a plan (Jer 29:11) and I know that he will take care of my needs (Phil 4:19) – but the waiting is very difficult, and sometimes very frustrating. But everyting happens in God’s time. Thank you so much for this encouragement. God bless you, Pastor Greg!!!
This is exactly what the Lord has been teaching me about so much lately. My family is experiencing something very similar to that of the story of Martha and Mary and Lazarus. It is very difficult. But the Lord keeps asking me: “Do you believe? Do you believe that I am Sovereign? Do you believe in resurrection?”
I KNOW that God will receive ALL the Glory through it all, and I KNOW that this situation will not end it death. But it is still very difficult at times. And so, I am resting in the Lord’s Sovereignty in it all. And learning to rest in the Shadow of His Wings. Allowing Him to lead me beside streams of water, allowing Him to quite my soul.
This will not END it death. PRAISE THE LORD!