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Cathe Laurie speaks!

December 29th, 2008 Posted in encouragement, family, lost boy, Lost Boy Blog, questions

Cathe Laurie, NYC 2008

What a night! We premiered the new version of the Lost Boy film that we are now calling Lost Boy: The Next Chapter last night at Calvary Chapel of Costa Mesa.

It was like a homecoming of sorts, as Calvary is where I first went to church, and that is prominently dealt with in the film. We had a lot of family there and saw a lot of old friends too. Pastor Chuck Smith was there and gave a gracious introduction to the film, and I spoke briefly afterward.

I was told that the facilty was packed not only in the main sanctuary, but in the overflow venues as well. I gave an invitation for people to come to Christ and we saw some 150 respond.

It was truly a glorious night!

More Lost Boy: The Next Chapter showings coming!

This new version of the documentary will be shown this Wednesday (New Year’s Eve) at Harvest Christian Fellowship in Riverside.

In the next couple of months we will also be showing this film in San Diego, California; Dallas, Texas; and Chicago, Illinois. So stay tuned to this blog for more information.

Cathe Laurie speaks

A lady named Jennifer wrote me recently on this blog about some problems she was having in her marriage, so I asked my wife if she would respond. So here is the original letter and Cathe’s response.

Jennifer writes:

I grew up with a strong faith. I moved away from that in high school. Now in my late 20s, God is calling me back.

I was married this year, and it is not going as I imagined. I have never lived in a world with so much arguing and misery. I have never prayed so much in my life, and I’ve never asked for so many prayers.

With all of the battles that I’m fighting, my biggest prayer is that God will use to me to show my husband that there is hope and happiness in life.

Your morning program is the first step I took in coming back to my faith. Some days, your words bring me to tears on the way to work because it’s a small glimmer of hope that God is talking to me.

Life is not good right now, but I have hope that things will be okay. I know that God is the only one that can help me through this and I can only keep praying that my husband will come with me.

For anyone reading this, I ask for your prayers. I know my story is small, compared to Greg’s story of losing his child, but it’s still a struggle that I will keep fighting. I know that God will use this trial in my life to be stronger, more loving and a testament to someone else, but most importantly, hopefully my husband.

Thank you for your morning program. It helps to keep hope alive in my head.

Cathe Laurie responds:

Dear Jennifer,

My heart, along with Greg’s, go out to you in your painful circumstances. Marriage isn’t easy, even when both parties are believers, so let me encourage you, don’t give up! Yes, there is more than a glimmer of hope that God is talking to you and wants to help you through this.

I know from what you write that you imagined a happy, fulfilled life with your husband. But happiness is not possible apart from the Source of true happiness. When you moved away from your faith in high school, you sought to realize your dream apart from the Lord and His plan for your life. That was not possible, but here is the good news, through this pain you have come back to the only One who can help you. His arms are open wide to anyone who comes seeking His forgiveness and help.

The first thing you need to do is pray specifically that God would begin by changing you. This will happen as you shift the focus of your search for happiness from seeking other things to seeking God. Put Him first in your life. He is your peace, your joy and your greatest love.

Reading God’s Word and filling your mind with His precepts you will discover the right way to live with and love your husband. Listening to Christian radio is a start, but nothing can replace your own daily study and devotion time with God.

The second thing that is very important is to get involved in a church. We can help you find one if you let us know where you live. You will find that God will instruct and encourage you through a pastor and the support and fellowship of other believers.

Lastly, know that God has much to say to a young wife in your situation. 1 Peter 3:1-6 gives you a good place to start. You can show your husband by the way you live that he too can discover the joy and peace that only comes from God. This takes time, so be patient with him, and remember how God was patient with you. You have every reason to hope God will use you as you begin to live out what you are learning.

May God be your strength and joy today,

Cathe

16 Responses to “Cathe Laurie speaks!”

  1. Mitch says:

    Thank you for these words. They have been a blessing to me. Me and my wife are not together right now. I am waiting on God to bring her home. I believe that it’s His will and she does too. We just don’t know when. Please pray for us, that God’s will be done.

    Thank you.

    Mitch Collins

  2. Melanie says:

    What a blessing and also an encouragement.

    I married a believer three years ago this month. A year ago, he divorced me just a couple of weeks before our second wedding anniversary. I am so grateful when people speak out on how difficult marriage can be, especially in the first few months or even years. It’s the melding of two lives together, and I personally believe that Christians are under attack even more than nonbelievers.

    So many people have an idealized image of what marriage should be in their mind, and that people rarely discuss the difficult times tends to make it even worse when you are having problems and no one else is.

    I personally think that I married a man that was truly not saved, and I just pray for his salvation at this point, which for me personally in my situation I believe that this is the more important thing: that he is saved.

    Anyway, Jennifer, I pray that you hang in there and walk closely with the Lord, put Him first and pray fervently for your husband. I absolutely love Cathe’s response to you, which is great advice for anyone, married or not. Praying for you and God bless you.

    Melanie

  3. Sharon says:

    Cathe, I thank God for your ministry to your husband, as his ministry to believers and ministry of evangelism has greatly impacted many, and I know a good wife is a great asset to him. Thank you also for your ministry to women like the one who wrote in.

    1 Peter 3:1-6 has greatly impacted my life and marriage as a Christian wife. One of the words in it, “likewise,” in the first verse I believe, points to what was before. The verses before (1 Peter 2:21-25), and other verses on submission in the previous chapter, give me great hope as Christ gave us the example and we should “follow His steps.”

    Even though I’m married to a wonderful Christian man, many times marriage can be a challenge and hurtful words can’t be taken back, but I love the verse that says, “who when He was reviled, did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously” (verse 23).

    I don’t know if that will help or get to the lady that wrote in, but I’ve found by experience, when accused wrongly by anyone (whether it be family member, a friend, a co-worker, or even my husband), if I just keep quiet and say a little prayer, knowing that God knows the truth, rather than defending myself or arguing back, it helps immensely.

    May God bless you, Greg, and your wonderful family as I know you have endured many struggles this past year and I’m so thankful that Brittany has a precious new baby, Lucy Christopher, and Stella to bring childlike hope and wonder in a dark time of your life. I pray that Psalm 46:1 will continue to be your strength: “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in times of trouble.”

  4. Jennifer says:

    Hi Cathe, Greg & all these wonderful people who commented to me!

    I can’t begin to tell you what an answer to my prayers this was to even see this post. And then to come and read these encouraging comments from individuals that don’t know me breaks my heart (in a good way).

    Thank you to Cathe, Greg, and everyone reading this who has put me in their prayers, even if it’s only one time. Your words and thoughts are both encouraging and inspiring. It makes me see that my search for God and faith is going in the right direction. This was what I needed to see that God is here with me, helping me through this.

    I genuinely consider what I’ve read on here a miracle. Thank you so much, you have no idea how I’ve been touched and blessed through this!

    -Jennifer

  5. Josie says:

    Dear Cathe,

    You did wonderful. I can tell Jesus truly spoke to you. My family and I are very blessed by you and Pastor Greg. It is a great honor and joy to have wonderful servants of God like you guys. I wish you and everyone in the family lots of love, joy, peace, happiness, and a very blessed and Happy New Year!

    P.S. Don’t ever quit serving God and blessing people all around with the gift God gave you both.

  6. Mariana says:

    Hi Pastor Greg!

    Thanks for sharing Jennifer’s letter and Cathe’s answer, which I’m very sure will help Jennifer. Marriage is never easy, especially if you marry an unbeliever, which is the case of my mom. She came to Christ after she got married, and let me tell you as a child of an “unbalanced” marriage (believer with unbeliever), that is not easy at all.

    But talking about my dad, he has changed a lot over the years and I know it has been the Lord’s work, and not ours. He is still yet to come to Him, though he has been sowed on more times that I can remember, by a number of different people. Believe me, the Lord has saved him from a lot of stuff during the years, but of course, as he is an unbeliever, he takes the credit for most of it.

    I keep praying for him so he can know the Lord sometime soon, or at least just before his life ends. Of course, I would like for this to happen soon rather than at the very end, but will be grateful for his salvation whenever it happens.

    I’m the youngest of three siblings. My brother, the eldest, is married already, also to an unbeliever. Even though my sister married first, also to an unbeliever, he had a chance to see the struggles of my sister with her marriage, and he still decided to openly disobey God on this. Let me tell you, all of those “urban legends” (as I call them, though they are plain facts) about believers who openly disobey our Lord and marry unbelievers are all true and different for each one.

    It’s not easy, I can tell you first hand, and it takes time for the unbeliever to turn to the Lord, and then for both to walk with Him as a fresh start. I’ve seen spouses who come quick after one of them comes to Christ and quickly comes the other, and I’ve seen cases like my mom’s, who is going on years and still no salvation, though a lot of change as taken place (at least 25 years and going) I’ve also seen my mom’s heart broken twice by both of my siblings marrying unbelievers, as well as mine. It’s certainly not easy, but like Philippians 4:13 says, we can do all things, through Christ who strengthens us.

    For those married to unbelievers, keep praying for them. And for those like me who are single believers, wait in the Lord and keep praying for your future spouse if it is a desire of yours to be married one day. Don’t be fooled, wait on the Lord, that’s the best thing you can do.

    In Christ,
    Mariana.

  7. Nate says:

    I just wanted to let Jennifer know (if she is reading this) that I am praying for her. God bless you. Stay strong and seek the Lord with all your heart. I am sure your husband will take notice. I don’t know if you have seen the movie Fireproof as well, but that is a very encouraging movie and I would highly recommend it regarding the message relating to marriage. You are in my prayers, and so is the Laurie family. God bless you.

  8. Aida says:

    Cathe!

    For the past few months, my husband’s grandparents, who have been married for 56 years, have come to my husband and I (who are 6 years into marriage) for advice. I knew on this visit that the subject of their marriage would come up again, so I had been in prayer to the Lord for the right things to say. The words God put in me to tell his grandmother were the same as yours! I’m continually amazed at how the Lord works!

  9. Miranda Family says:

    Pastor Greg and Cathe,

    How exciting for those 150 new believers who came to know the Lord, and what a blessing to see how God is using you both, taking something so painful and turning it to glorify Him.

    Cathe: Your message to Jennifer is true, loving, so encouraging.

    Jennifer, if you read this, please know that I have been there and everything Cathe said is spot on! Focus on God’s plan for you and you’ll see God’s plan for you and your husband unfold before your eyes.

    I’m looking forward to seeing your new version of the Lost Boy film soon!

    Blessings ~ Becky

  10. Debbie says:

    Tell Cathe that her response was awesome and so full of truth. I felt like it was directed to me also. I have never met Cathe or attended any of her Bible studies, although I attended Harvest back in the 80s. I would like to hear more from her. God bless your family!

  11. Teri says:

    I can’t wait to see the new version of the documentary. I know it is awesome and that God will use it to minister to others. I also loved what Cathe shared with Jennifer. Even though I’ve been married many years, her words encouraged me to read God’s Word, to get involved more at Harvest, and to be patient with my husband. Thank you so much to both of you. God Bless you!

  12. Mindi says:

    Wow! You are so blessed to have a wise wife like Cathe!

  13. Mark says:

    Bless you, Cathe & Greg,

    The ripple effect from all that you do, and all that has happened in your lives, is almost infinite! You all have changed so many lives, including mine. I don’t know where I would be now [my guess would be hell] if it were not for your radio/Internet ministry. We will never know the extent of it, untill we are in glory.

    Thank tou all for what you do, to God be the glory!

    Yours in Christ,
    Mark

  14. Carol says:

    Hi Pastor Greg,

    Looking forward to seeing Lost Boy: The Next Chapter and very excited to hear you’ll be in my neck of the woods: Chicago. You’re quite brave coming to the Windy City in the winter.

    Cathe’s response to Jennifer was just beautiful and encouraging for all marriages. Her words ring out truth that all things are possible through God. I have a friend that has been having problems with her marriage for a couple of years now and I will share these words with her.

    Thank you.

    Carol

  15. Heidi says:

    Thank you, Cathe, for sharing this information with Jennifer. I also listen to Greg each morning and get the daily devotions sent to me. He is such an inspiration in my life. I have never met him, but hearing his words bring great strength to me each day. It was a wonderful message for myself as well.

    I personally am in a similar situation, although I am not married yet. I am engaged and will be getting married next fall or maybe sooner. I have a six-month-old baby with my fiance. I want so badly for my fiance to come to Christ.

    I grew up in a Christian home, always attending church, and even went to private school from Kindergarden through eighth grade. So I know the way it is to have a church-going family, as well as strong believers and I want my own family to be like this. Although I don’t know how it will happen without my fiance being on the same faith level as myself. I have been praying so hard for him and for our family. I am just scared to get married and not have a husband to fellowship with, yet alone, a Christian husband.

    When I first met him, I was at a tough point in my life, struggling with my faith. So I didn’t really look for a Christian man. I just always thought to myself that he would eventually change but three years later, he remains the same. He believes in God, but does not have a relationship with him. It is getting harder each day, and i don’t what to do, except to continue my prayers.

    I ask everyone who reads this to pray for my fiance to come to the Lord. He is such a great man, but missing the biggest important person in his life: Jesus. I want my baby to grow up knowing the Lord and to be a strong Christian. I know i can do my best to raise my child knowing God, but its going to be hard if we both are not on the same page. I want to be married so badly to him but the Bible says not to be yoked with an unbeliever. I don’t know what to do. Any suggestions would be wonderful.

    Thank you all and have a Blessed day!

    Heidi

  16. Cynthia says:

    Dear Pastor Greg,
    I watched the new version of Lost Boy last night and it was so amazing. I can’t wait to be able to share the new documentary with loved ones. Your life story is so powerful in bringing forth the greatness of God.

    I have been wanting to write to you for sometime now. I want to thank you for being so open and honest about your life.

    I remember the day that Christopher was taken to heaven. My mom was going to pick me up after work for a doctor’s appointment, and she called to say she would be late because there was an accident. She said she had a heavy heart and was praying for the person involved in the accident and their family. I also began to pray. I usually say a quick prayer every time I hear an ambulance but this time it was different. This time, I prayed several times that day and the next day for this person I didn’t know. The following morning my mom called me and told me she was listening to KWAVE and heard it was your son. My heart was so broken for you and your family.

    I have prayed for you and your family several times a day ever since that day. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain that your family has been through. But I do know that because of your love for Jesus and your love for His children, you have touched so many people (including myself) by being open and honest about what you’re going through.

    I struggle with fear a lot. I know that in saying that, it’s just like saying that I struggle with trusting God. I do trust the Lord but I find myself having to remind myself that nothing is going to happen that God hasn’t planned since before I was even born. So He will also be there in every situation that may come.

    The main thing I worry about is that someone I love will be taken from this earth suddenly. I am a stay-at-home mom with a soon-to-be 2-year-old daughter and another daughter due in March. At times. I find myself so worried about whether or not my husband will make it home from work. I am also so scared to go places at times because of the fear that something might happen. I know that “perfect love casts out all fear” and as soon as I start praying, the Lord reminds me that I don’t need to fear because He will never leave me.

    I just wanted to tell you that your family’s faith has really impacted my life in this area as well. Even though I’ve never met Brittany or heard her speak, she has touched my life and her faith encourages me daily in trusting the Lord. The fact that she is a young mom with two little girls who continues to trust in the Lord in every situation points me to Jesus and reminds me that God is always there. Her faith, and the faith of your family, speaks to me about God’s faithfulness in a way that is so real to me like never before and has changed my life. Thank you so much for sharing your heart with us at church, through Lost Boy and through this blog!

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